As an imperfect mother living in a world where social media proclaims perfection, it is easy to be filled with constant worry and even, at times, jealousy. Questions like “Am I doing well enough as a parent?” “Do my children have enough new toys?” “Do my children have as many gifts for birthdays and Christmas that the social media feeds show?” “Are their clothes ‘in style’?” may arise. The list could go on and on about what this world deems great parents to be. It can really make you feel like you are not good enough, when in truth, these things are only things, and they do not measure our ability to parent our children, and do not truly matter in terms of our children’s salvation.
Dear friend, we, as parents –in order to set an eternal example– must set our eyes on things that are from above and not from this earth.
“Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth.”
Often times I slip up and allow worrisome and jealous thoughts to consume my mind and unfortunately, my human nature sets in and I seem to believe that worrying will somehow solve everything in the end. But when has this ever worked out for the good, when I continually worry? This becomes a slippery slope that I may have trouble escaping from if I am not mindful. I was reminded the other day, by my one-year-old son, that I am doing okay. I am doing my best with the grace God has given me and continues to give freely. Through prayer, supplication and thanksgiving, rather than being jealous in an attempt to portray a better life because of things for my children, I am striving to show them who Jesus is and how He loves – and that He is all that truly matters.
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
A few days ago, while I was in His Word and on the computer writing, my son began continuously walking back and forth to where I was sitting, gifting me slobbery kisses and half eaten Goldfish. In this moment, I felt overwhelmed with a gracious reminder from the Lord: “I am enough for you, my dear daughter, you are showing your children Who I Am. It is apparent through the generosity of your son.” A peace surrounded me that only our gracious Father in Heaven may give. It is well.
“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”
I may feel as though I am failing at times as a parent, or I’m not good enough by the world’s standards and demands, but I was reminded in this moment of what seemed like never-ending kisses and Goldfish (I am most certainly not complaining!), that God sees my heart for Him. And His grace is all I need; it is enough. He sees and knows my heart and mind, and whatever I fill it with will manifest to and through my children. This is a colossal platform to stand on, but with God’s goodness, His grace and mercy, there will be no room for fear of failing.
“God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.”
We, as parents, must focus more on God’s plan for our children and how we can be obedient in His plan for us, as their parents. We should intentionally focus on showing the next generation how to be generous, loving, prayerful, hope-filled followers of Jesus. In this season I am concentrating on always remaining mindful that I serve a God who conquers all things, and all things are from, through and to Him. The glory will always be His, forever. All the expensive and nice things of this world are temporary, but the volume of love that we spread and the amount of light that we show may change everything. Would you please go with me, friend?