The Confidence Game


So much of life is a confidence game. Creating, loving, learning and giving our best all require us to show up, stand up, speak up, or look up with boldness and belief in our mission. This is one of the reasons why we’re gathering and inspiring this community – to inspire and challenge each other to grow in confidence, both spiritually, and in our business or creative endeavors.

If you want to pursue your purpose boldly and with integrity, how-tos for quick wins and advice like fake-it-‘till-you-make-it won’t sustain you on the journey, because the journey is long and we run as if to win. Each of us has a unique path that has been custom-designed just for us as a roadmap for both personal development and professional success. Women on a mission need to embark on this journey with spiritual confidence and confidence in our work, and we don’t want to be faking it. So how do we gain  (or increase) this confidence we so desire (and require)?

If you do a quick Google search for ‘confidence in business’ you’ll find more than 150 million results (in 0.63 seconds) directing you down a rabbit hole of academic and editorial advice on what you can do to increase your confidence in business. You can dress well and worry less and embrace positivity! and seek feedback and take risks and take the long view and upgrade your network (!?) and perform well and achieve your goals. And you could try a little harder.

Or, you could spend five minutes meditating on a single search result found in the book of Hebrews that could profoundly shift your understanding of confidence – in all aspects of life – in a way that only the living, operative word of God can do.

“Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has ascended into heaven, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” ~ Hebrews 4:14-16, NIV

Here’s how these verses can help us with the confidence game; it’s not about us. Confidence is all about Him – who He is, what He can do, and how He thinks of us. Meditate on His attributes from the verses above:

His Greatness – We have a great (pre-eminent, distinguished, of high status – hello! famous!) high priest! He is ours and we are His. We belong to and are governed by the greatest leader of all time!

His Position – Death couldn’t hold Him and He ascended into heaven because He was and is the Son of God. Sister, you have direct access to the One seated beside the most Holy of Holies. You don’t have to keep looking for a mentor with a position of influence!

His Empathy – While he completed his mission, Jesus was tempted in every way, which gives credence to His endless empathy for us. He understands all of the things that could erode our confidence in our mission, from temptation to doubt to (hello!) procrastination. Be encouraged and inspired that you don’t walk alone on your mission.

His Gifts – The world may advise us to focus on our skills and strengths (read: gifts) to boost our confidence, but the Word offers another way. It says that if we come in confidence to His throne, we can simply receive what we need (read: confidence) from Him as gifts. And He wants to shower us with mercy and grace. Doesn’t that boost your confidence, knowing that for every hiccup or catastrophe you can draw from an endless reserve of confident peace, breathing in His mercy and breathing out His grace? Wow.

If we can just shift our focus from us to Him, we’ll see that, as daughters of the King, confidence is an area in which we have been invited to receive victory. Isn’t that relieving!? I hope you are encouraged that Jesus has created the perfect relationship in which we can grow in confidence by one simple action; approach the throne of grace in confidence to receive His gifts. Because when you believe and understand that you are an heir – and you belong – to that throne and accept all of the mercy and grace flowing from it, you can approach all other aspects of life (including your creative work) in confidence as well.

Danielle is an author and entrepreneur. She loves afternoon tea, weddings, and finding the perfect gifts for her favourite people. Her mission is to hire and train the unemployed, and to help women joyfully celebrate life. Danielle was a corporate banker for years and has lived and worked in North America, Europe, the Middle East, and Asia.

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